This question has been simmering in my head the past few days probably because I don't think I've ever seriously given it a thought. I knew it's different from person to person, as Emily Bronte wrote: "It is in the eye of the beholder". So I know that it is not what is there that matters, but how someone else perceives it to be and attaches desire to it. More often than not, what is desired is what is hard to find or hard to be. Kind of like looking for the man/woman who has it all, which leads to more dead ends than any real deal breakers. It could be fair skin, a fit figure, flawless skin, long smooth tresses. Most of these are desired because they're not easy to have. Fair skin darkens in the sun, many hours of work in the gym leads to a fit figure, flawless skin and smooth hair requires healthy eating habits and good maintenance. It is difficult to have for many, and for some it can be impossible to have. What if I am born brown, I know I can never be fair
In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life. It goes on. Robert Frost